“Goals” should be “stepping stones” that will bring you closer to your big vision.
Setting and achieving goals is not a “me-too” thing, which you see others set a
certain goals (e.g. lose 20 pounds) and you try to do the same.
Your big vision is what pulls you through when things get challenging. The goals, big
or small, should be the steps that will help you achieve your big vision.
Your goals should be more than “physical” or material achievement. What emotions
do you want to achieve by losing 10 pounds? Do you want to feel “sexy” again? Do
you want to feel like you “fit in”? Try to achieve those“emotions”, and the
“physical” manifestation will follow.
When you focus on how you want to feel, you let go of the material manifestation. You
won’t get hung up on the last 2 pounds, if you are already feeling fabulous.
With that big vision also comes your “Big Why”. Why do you want to achieve your goal?
Dig deeper than your initial answer. Your initial response to why you want to
lose 10 pounds may be to look good in your clothes. Don’t stop there… ask, then
what? Then, maybe you will feel confident about yourself. You will change your
life because you feel empowered to step up and do the thing that you have been
wanting to do and live to your fullest potential! This will be the big reason to
pull you forward when you feel unmotivated. This will be the big reason to get
you back on track when you fall off the wagon.
When you write down your goals, make sure they are stated in the positive. The
subconscious mind does not understand “negative” – so if you say, “I don’t want
to feel tired” your subconscious mind only focuses on “tired” – and you will
stay being tired. Instead, say “I want to feel energetic and productive,” then
your subconscious mind will get on board to help you achieve a more energetic